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Susan Kahn's avatar

This is such a helpful post. Much of my writing has been about our inability to confront our own mortality, and in doing so we make it so much more difficult for those left behind. This is really great. I think you should publish this broadly.

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Ruth Sturkey's avatar

Thanks Susan, I appreciate the feedback and glad it is helpful. I will think about your suggestion. Thanks for the encouragement!

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Amanda Mayes's avatar

This is really useful Ruth. We talk to clients about having a "If I'm not here" pack to try to put as many things in one place as possible. Simply reducing the admin stress at a time of emotional distress.

One of my fave films is Love at First Sight (don't judge!) and in this there is a living wake which I think is a beautiful thing to do if you get the chance. They ere all theatrical types so the costumes were fabulous! I love the idea of everyone having a great party to celebrate the times we had together.

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Ruth Sturkey's avatar

Thanks Amanda - as I was writing it I realised there is a lot, even if one's affairs are relatively 'simple'. It's definitely one to do as a project...or is that just me?! The "If I'm not here pack" is a great idea - do your clients hold that physically or digitally?

Film added to my list! I too love the sound of a Living Wake - I hear more and more about them. Was that a bit like Peter's Friends all those years ago? albeit his intent was less specific...Stephen Fry was brilliant in it as was the whole cast.

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David Henry's avatar

This is great Ruth.

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Ruth Sturkey's avatar

Thanks David, hopefully I hit the key items!

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